Sadness and Joy

Love Your Emotions and Understand the Meaning They Offer

Brene Brown said it perfectly when she said “The darkness does not destroy our light. The darkness defines it.”. Often times, parents who raise children with special needs, find that their emotional core is all over the place. Love your emotions and understand the meaning they offer. When you can embrace that emotion, it all goes back to love. You’ll find ease on your journey as a mother who has a child, or children with special needs.

As mothers, we have a fierce desire to protect our children. While we are pregnant, we hope our child will have all of their limbs, their daddy’s eyes and mom’s smile. We also hope they will stay in our tummy until it’s time to be born, and there will be no complications of the delivery. We pick out the colors of the nursery, and get the room clean and pretty for rocking the baby to sleep.

We don’t, however, anticipate birth defects, birth injuries, umbilical cord strangulation and other birth issues that can happen to babies within moments of their first breath. Even with technology to the point of detailed sonograms so clear you can see your whole baby, weeks after gestation, there are still many medical issues that can arise.

As a mother, you don’t know how to react to the news that your child has cerebral palsy, and you may not have had any warning of the autism spectrum. These are conditions among children that require super moms to step up. And with this requirement comes a boatload of emotions.

At first, you may feel angry. How could this happen to my baby? Didn’t I eat the right food? Didn’t I take the right supplements? I even sang to my baby. Why is this happening?

Do these self-defeating statements ring true to you? For many moms, dealing with the emotions of being a mother to a child with special needs, creates many emotions. These emotions all go back to deep, intense love. Even emotions such as guilt and shame can connect with the emotion of love, through action and connection. Love, although many people think is an emotion, is actually an engrained chemistry that is default in the human soul.

Anytime you are feeling defeated as a mom who has devoted her life to ensure her child has a happy experience, remember that you love (an action) and you are love (a noun). Repeat this mantra “Although I feel Sadness – I am Love”.

Published by Sabrina Thomas

I’m Sabrina Thomas. I’m a Speaker, an Author, and an Autism & Special Education Advocate. Most importantly, I am the mother to two sons. My youngest son, Omar, has inspired by passion for Autism awareness and Special Education. Omar has Autism, Cerebral Palsy, and an Intellectual Disability. I understand the importance of being a voice for the voiceless, and I feel it is my duty to spread what I’ve learned to those around me. It is my goal to raise awareness together so that we as advocates can change and better the lives of those with special needs both now and moving forward. The most rewarding part of my career stems from being able to give parents, families, and caregivers the power and knowledge they need to be the best possible advocates for those with special needs. I know firsthand how overwhelming life can be, which is why I find joy in speaking about what I’ve learned and sharing my life with others. I am transparent, encouraging, and inclusive in my messages. I believe that as the parent of a child with special needs, it is our responsibility to be a voice for our children when they can’t speak for themselves. However, I also believe in including and empowering our children in the process if they are able to be. Each child has an equal right to learn in whatever that may look like for them as an individual.

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